167 is normally the fuel pump relay number, but VW make changes frequently, hence why referring to the manual is a good idea. I got the 449 info on the net ages ago when I had similar issues, but in my case, it was an failing pump so didn't need to bother with any relays in the end.
So no power to the controller? There must either be a break in a wire somewhere, or the fuel pump relay is not being commanded on......in which case we need to look at the ECU trigger wire.
Have you got VAG-COM?
Did you try bridging the fuel pump relay with a couple of spade connectors and a wire? That bypasses the ECU and the relay and confirms power to the pump, and if still no power, it's a broken wire somewhere.