Hi Mike,
I am in Kent.
The flywheel isn't making any noise which is why the second chap i saw said it is unlikely to be that, although he wasn't much help either, I am thinking of going to AMD in essex to get them to have a look at it, i don't know any people over my way who i trust to sort it out without ripping me off. Not sure if the clutch is heavy or not either, that's why i would like to compare with another golf, but it might be a touch on the heavy side too.