I have finally figured it out, tis possible via 2 clicks on vagcom
Boom.....
The fogs now come on with the ignition and turn off when lights are switched on....
But how is this done I hear you cry...
Go "central electronics controller 09"
"coding 07"
"long coding helper"
then you need to go to "byte 17" and activate "daytime running light via fog light" like so...
Then go back to "byte 11" where you will find "front parking light dimming", in the box on the right choose what dimming setting you would like 0-100%, in the picture below I have them set at 80 as you can see!
Then "exit" long coding helper, press "do it" and the jobs a good'un!
I will take thankyou donations in the form of pounds sterling