Nathan, I agree.
The OP spacers may not have been made of fairly durable material. An Audi S3 (correct me if I am wrong) has Alloy wishbones. Many aircraft have alloy frames. Longerons and stringers, which are designed to flex with load, it is part of the way Loads are transferred.
I think that the material spec used in the Op post, may have been an inferior. An alloy wheel is designed to deform slightly, to absorb loadings that are not absorbed by the tyre. But when something you fit is allowed to flex at a lower stress level, ie the spacer, then this will happen.
The load will always find the easiet and path of least resistance. when you fit spacers you increase the leverage loads invoalved at the whell bearing, something you can not get away from, but be careful and inspect your spacers when you remove the wheels.
All it takes is a stress raiser be machined into the spacer profile, and this will happen. by this i mean the inner face is machined with a very sharp tool, all the way to the horizintal face of the spigot, this will creat a very sharp corner, and an immediate path for the loads to create havoc.
But i still think that the thin wall has allowed flex, and a lower durability material has fractured.